08/07/2012 by Basia Rose
I was just reading about some women who are grounded when they’re rude to their husbands, and it seemed so strange to me. Because… grounded? Really? Where you’re not allowed out of the house for a week or more? Where you’re not allowed to turn the television on? (And yes, that’s exactly how they were being punished.)
And being grounded just for being rude? Seems harsh.
I wasn’t even grounded as a child (but then, that could be because I believe it’s American terminology – here we just “get in trouble”!).
I know that in BDSM there’re often punishments like writing lines or whatever, so there’s some crossover. But for a husband to tell his wife she’s grounded and that she’s not allowed to speak to her friends… and has to get permission to go pick up the kids from school… that sounds ridiculous to me. It seems to confirm the accusations thrown Domestic Discipline’s way that it is a practice no different to turning your wife into your daughter.
If you’re stripped of the ability to have contact with anybody other than your husband (and the spawn, if you’ve spawned!) every time you argue a point or make your case in a situation where you don’t agree with your husband? Then you probably won’t be arguing much anymore.
It could be, but you have to remember, there’re times when the husband is going to be a dick. And he’s going to be wrong. And the wife should be able to argue her point without worrying she’s going to be confined to the house for weeks at a time.
Because – to me – that is not DD as much as it is out and out abuse. Denying your wife access to the outside world is exactly what abusers do. It’s a slippery slope.
Worse, still, is that the people practicing this fairly extreme version of Domestic Discipline so often bring Christianity into it.
If you choose DD because it’s right for your relationship, then good for you. Great for you! But if you choose DD because your church community tells you your wife is too stupid to operate on her own, then – sorry – but I’m going to have to very, very seriously disagree.
It seems to work for these people, but I would hate a husband who dished out the kind of punishment I associate with an eighth-grader who sneaked out to a concert.
And, hell. At least the eighth-grader still gets to leave the house for school five days a week!
So, about Ageplay:
After complaining about people using pictures of thirteen-year-old girls on their ageplay/porn blogs (or – more accurately – kinky blogs where the women are dressed like children), now I’ve seen these people using pictures of toddlers. (To be clear, they’re not pornographic pictures, but pictures to which the bloggers attach things they want to do to their “Babygirls” with their cocks.)
Did that three-year-old give her permission to be used on a porn blog, with dirty words added below the picture? And even if she did, she’s three!