28/07/2012 by Basia Rose
You can be a Dominant. Not a Dominate.
Lots of people get it wrong – not everyone – but some days it seems like it is everyone!
Is it really so hard to understand the difference between being a Dominant, and being the one who Dominates?! So many book reviews confuse the terms, which I would blame on the fact BDSM books have become popular within the romance reading community, and people screw up the terminology because it’s unfamiliar to them.
But then I visit FetLife – Facebook for kinksters – and everyone’s doing it over there too!!
I am SO sick of coming across men who call themselves “Dominates”. How can you expect someone to trust you with their body when you don’t even know what you’re called?!
Imagine if submissives went around calling themselves “submits”!!
Surely it’s not that confusing!
Oh, and damn. With the whole my computer crashed drama, and me trying to transfer everything onto my new one (still haven’t finished that!), I never got to the Lovely Blogger thing. I think that ship has sailed now…