03/09/2012 by Basia Rose
What this long, rambling post is actually about (eventually!) is nappies. I should also preface this by saying where I live (Australia) religion doesn’t have the stranglehold on society the way it does in other parts of the world. Bringing God into anything here would be inconceivable. I am officially a Christian, but that doesn’t mean I only make decisions based on that. (Okay, I never do!)
“Husband, know… KNOW… your wife. If your wife has not explicity requested CDD, but she has made implicit comments similar to the ones mentioned above, and if you believe that CDD is a tool which may help strengthen your marriage, I suggest your next step would be prayer. Pray for wisdom for both of you, pray for God’s guidance, pray for help in humbling yourself, and pray for God to help her be willing to put aside her pride, fear, or control issues and trust you and trust God. Perhaps CDD would be a good fit for your marriage.”
Spelling mistakes courtesy of christiandomesticdiscipline.com
I have a question:
When people pray about Christian Domestic Discipline, does God really reply? Really?!
“Yes. Even though your wife didn’t tell you to spank her, you must help her put aside her female pride and get her butt caned like a good God-fearing woman.”
Spanking = great. REALLY GREAT. I take issue with the Bible part of it though!
In recent weeks I’ve been hearing about a lot of husbands who make their wives wear nappies (that’s “diapers” for you Americans!) because – apparently, “If you act like a child, I’ll treat you like one.”
These are not Daddy Dom/babygirl relationships we’re talking about here (something I have no problem with, as it involves plenty of discussion and consent on both sides, and the people involved do it because it’s kinky!). These are Christian Domestic Discipline folks who claim that DD doesn’t mean the wife feels like she’s being treated like a baby.
Yet they force their wives to walk around in nappies…
Um… yeah. Good luck with that.
“Disciplining the wife when the marriage is in trouble may not be fair. In her eyes it may not even be right. But ask her whether in her soul God has told her that submitting to her husband’s hand, even in this, is against His will and the honest wife will admit defeat before the struggle begins.”
There is a large crowd of Christian folks who believe the man is head of the household – a position appointed by the bearded guy up at the Pearly Gates. He isn’t leading the relationship for any reason other than he was the one born with the schlong. I’ve come across men who began building up their collections of paddles to beat on their wives and children with years before they even met their spouse. I’ve seen online debates about the merits of washing out their wives’ mouths with soap over applying a medical cream to burn their butts when they’re out in public.
Of course a lot of this in incorporated in BDSM too, but to me the intent is different. The CDD folks seem to believe they are hurting their wives (and children) because Jesus intended it that way. The power imbalance didn’t evolve from a person’s natural inclination to be Dominant or submissive; it happened because that’s what they learnt in Sunday school. And I find that repulsive.
Domestic Discipline takes on all kinds of forms, and despite what the Christian crowd claims, a lot of people I’ve come across who practice it definitely incorporate kink.
What Topics do we not Discuss?
Whilst we recognise by its very nature this can be an erotic subject, we will keep this website as clean and wholesome as possible. However, we will not seek to deny the erotic nature of some CDD marriages as we believe it is a natural consequence of following God’s plan. After all, He created eroticism and sexuality to be enjoyed within the healthy, safe, and exclusive boundaries of marriage.
In other words, go ahead and get off on spanking your wife. But just pretend you don’t so you can uphold the façade that religious people are superior beings!
The word “clean” comes into the CDD vocabulary an awful lot. As if all those babies the Christians produce for love of Jesus arrived via the stork rather than any meeting of penis with vagina. As if sexuality is something to be ashamed of.
And yet, I’ve seen so many of these women talk about how turned-on their husbands are by spankings. So yeah, I’m thinking maybe there isn’t a way to be “clean” while you’re regularly marking up your wife’s arse.
One reason I find this hypocrisy so infuriating is that I have so many followers on sites like Pinterest, whose boards are full of Bible quotes, Jesus pictures and anti-porn messages. And yet they are fine with secretly looking at my BDSM pictures.
If you get off on changing your wife’s dirty nappies, then admit to it. But don’t force her to do those things because you think somehow that proves your superiority as a man. That is so far beyond stupid I’d laugh – if I didn’t feel so sorry for the wives. You are not “cleaner” than me, because sex – and yes, you’re having it! – isn’t dirty.
Unless you want it to be.