Sugarkink, Glitterkink, Mommy Porn, Mummy Porn

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12/09/2012 by Basia Rose

This is something erotica author Kitty Thomas discusses at length on her site, and much better than I do!

I know Americans get a giggle out of “mummy porn”, so I often avoid using that term online. It isn’t sex involving ancient Egyptians (as a few people I know actually thought!!), but – rather – the way non-Americans spell the title of the woman who spawned them. Anyway…

Anybody who has ever read a Cherise Sinclair book will probably agree about a few things.

  1. the books are really well-written
  2. the books feature a nice variety of BDSM activities
  3. the books are a good introduction to kink for female readers moving over from romance and women’s fiction

However, I’ve been coming across some Fifty Shades of Twilight fans who have been labelling Sinclair’s books (on sites like Goodreads) as “only for fans of hardcore BDSM”.

Firstly, I’ll say BULLSHIT.

Secondly, I’ll say WTF??!! (Which, incidentally, I recently discovered “officially” stands for World Taekwondo Federation. As far as acronyms go, that wasn’t their best choice.)

I’ve definitely met a lot of armchair experts in the months since women decided FSOT was the most erotic thing to hit the world since the Upper Palaeolithic folks in Germany created the dildo 30 000 years ago. But I’m getting irritated by all the housewives who were drawn to FSOT for the Mary Sue Cinderella story rather than the kink, who then get online and warn people off better-written, kinkier, but by no means hardcore BDSM books.

In the last few years people have been throwing around the terms “Sugarkink” and “Glitterkink” a lot. They’re used to describe the kinds of BDSM books vanilla readers and kinky people can both enjoy without being squicked out by anything extreme. Some people use the term in a derogatory way, but those people are silly, so I don’t care!

I see Cherise Sinclair’s and similar authors’ books turning up on online “Sugarkink” book lists, and that’s good: you know what to expect (and it’s a kind of book I happen to enjoy).

But this whole mummy porn thing: that is not the same. Mummy porn (as offensive and stupid as the term is) is a term for one book series, and one book series alone. Well, until someone publishes a fanfic of it – and you bet E.L. James is hypocritical enough to sue over that, unlike Stephenie Meyer (I can’t believe I’m standing up for the author of Twilight!).

I am happy to read all kinds of BDSM as long as nobody’s using flesh hooks (shudder – even pictures of those things make me want to vomit), and I often find sugarkink-style reads are better-written, better-edited and actually manage to have a decent story as well as the sex.

I’m not really sure where I’m going with this, other than to express my outrage that “sugarkinky” books are too much for Doris and Betty from the Baptist bake sale, so they’ve taken to the internet to warn people off.

I’m also more than mildly annoyed with a FSOT fan I encountered the other day who claimed to be a BDSM expert after handing out a hugely positive review to vapid Ana and her billion-dollar butt plugs. A fan who went on to dish out bad reviews to authors who dared to – gasp – feature a flogger or paddle in a scene.

Basically, if you don’t like BDSM, please stop criticising authors who write it. Or wait until the next fanfic plagiarist writes about Hermione Granger and her first encounter with Ron Weasley’s Red Room of Tame.

14 thoughts on “Sugarkink, Glitterkink, Mommy Porn, Mummy Porn

  1. B's Books says:

    couldnt agree more! right now she is one of my favorites! she has the best and most realistic writing for BDSM. Her as well as Kallypso Masters.. I absolutely LOVE their books!!! and when people are all talking about fifty shades I just giggle to myself and think fool you havent read anything yet. Then I will go up to them and explain if they want some GOOD hot steamy sexy romance then they need to read the Masters of the Shadowlands Series and the Rescue Me series. I also know that there are some who can not read that and right away jump to it is abuse on women, and on that I say BULLSHIT that is a matter of your stupid opinon. But I can tell when someone is not quite ready for something along the lines of Sinclair and Masters writing because they do get pretty deep at times and intense. So I will tell them to start off with Shayla Black’s Wicked Lovers Series they have some kink to them but are not as intense. But all I know is I LOVE me some GOOD BDSM!!!! and I hate that everyone and their mom thinks fifty is the best becuase it is FAR from it! dont get me wrong I enjoyed the story and I have told many that if they took the sex out of it I would have still liked it for the story but the sex didnt make me get all OMG this is the best book EVER becasue it is so hot! No that wasnt till I read the Shadowlands books! Talk about adding to my list of things I want to try! hahaha

    • Basia Rose says:

      What really annoys me is that so many women (and MEN!!) who loved Fifty Shades say they liked it because, “You can’t find sex in many books”.
      I have no idea what planet they’re living on!
      The inspiration for this blog post was a review of Cherise Sinclair’s To Command and Collar that claimed it was too hardcore for most people because of a flogging scene.
      I wanted to bash my head against a wall. Cherise Sinclair is one of my favourites, but she has never written a book that could be considered close to hardcore.
      It annoys me that women have read this one fake BDSM book (Fifty Shades) and now think they’re experts on BDSM. I’ve seen that attitude more times than I want to count!

  2. I think the people who love this book just haven’t read much else. I mean, I can’t figure out any other reason.

    • Basia Rose says:

      I have seen numerous people on Pinterest who have a “Favourite Books” board. They always have only seven books on it: the four Twilight books and the three Fifty Shades books.
      So, yeah, I think those are the only seven books they have ever – and will ever – own. Unless, of course, another plagiarist turns up and publishes Fifty Shades fanfiction!

      • Bad news, someone has, apparently. I forget where I saw the story. Also EL James had the nerve to get annoyed by someone copying. Seriously, James?

        And that’s so sad about the favorite books. I keep saying it over and over. These people vote.

      • Basia Rose says:

        I can’t believe I keep defending Stephenie Meyer (I really disliked her books, and a lot of the messages in them), but I know E.L. James will sue anyone and everyone who tries to profit off her. Meyer hasn’t done anything about Fifty Shades yet, and it doesn’t look like she’s going to.

      • B's Books says:

        I have noticed for the most part books can be similar in a specific genre. I mean everyone may pull a small amount that might inspire from another or a person will write how they wish the story would have been or ended. But what I dont get is why an author would take offence to it I mean isnt it a compiment of some sort? but I have to agree it is dumb for James to get upset about something she did to begin with… which was make up her version of a story she enjoyed.

      • Basia Rose says:

        But what E.L. James did is actually illegal, and if Stephenie Meyer pursued it, James could be in a lot of trouble.
        Twilight isn’t out of copyright (unlike older books like Pride and Prejudice). It is illegal to use another authors’ characters and profit from it. Until James decided to make money from her story, the characters were called Edward and Bella and Jacob and Alice and so on. She used the characters’ physical descriptions, hobbies, family structures and personality traits.
        Sending cease and desist notices to her fans smacks of hypocrisy. She stole someone else’s work, and now she’s punishing her fans for liking her books.

  3. Could not agree with you more!!! Frankly FSOT was just plan annoying to me… I LOVE Sinclair and the fact that she actually makes an effort to educate her reads with her storys and manages to give a good story along with so pleasant kink! I personally feel FSOT could have been writed in 2 books since the first book really only had about 10 chapters worth of story and lame half ass love scenes to fill the rest of the 400 some odd pages. And might I add that the people that think those books were oh so bad obviously have never experienced anything other than missionary… which just makes them ignorant. Thank you for posting about Sinclair… I have recommened her books to many of my friends… she’s fantastic and I can’t wait for Sam’s story to come out next… although he scares me a little…. 🙂

    • Basia Rose says:

      Well, it was difficult for E.L. James to do any educating when she freely admitted to knowing nothing about BDSM 😉 I think she has a bit of a nerve now doing photo shoots where she’s posing with BDSM equipment.
      I’m looking forward to Sam’s book. REALLY looking forward to it!

  4. I mean “bad” as in those people that thought FSOT was “naughty bad” not bad as in they weren’t worth the money spent on them bad… thankfully my copies were given to me and thus no money spent on my part… probably would have been really ticked off had I paid for them… that’s money I now can spend on that Rescue Me series mentioned above! (I already have all of Sinclair’s) Further more… I’d like to add that most series… as is the case with Sinclair… need to be read in order! One of the things that made me fall for Sinclaire’s writing to begin with is that she eases you into it if you start at the beginning… her first book in the Shadowlands was just a toe touch into the pool of awesome that comes late in the series… and ya… To Command and to Collar was a bit more extreme, but that was kind of the point… and it took what… 7 books to get you there… and her next book will be even more intest as it is sure to deal with more of the S/M part of the life style… ya, not everyone is going to be into it… but Sinclair has… at least in my opinion.. always presented the different aspects of the lifestyle in a manner of understanding.. which again… IMO is extremely respectable of an author! And again she always writes a good story around the Kink… so double bonus!

    • Basia Rose says:

      I read the Fifty series long before it became a worldwide “thing”. Back then I couldn’t understand what people saw in the books. Even more now that it’s being declared this revolutionary piece of “literature”.
      It’s true that the BDSM has been “growing” through the Shadowlands series. It’s like real-life BDSM experiences: the more you explore, the more you find to enjoy. No diving into the extreme stuff from the start!
      I do prefer books where there is a strong story to go with the kink. I think that’s what has made Cherise Sinclair so popular.

  5. Catharine. says:

    I was just having a conversation with someone yesterday about this very thing. Most of the people who are perpetuating this crap wouldn’t know what BDSM is if it bit them on the bum. What bothered me the most about Fifty Shades was the fact that the author was trying to make BDSM a bad thing that Christian was ducking because he was messed up in the head. Ana’s love was somehow saving him from that. Authors like Cherise let us know what a wonderful experience it can be. BTW, you are a great writer. When are we going to see your books? 😉

    • Basia Rose says:

      The portrayal of BDSM as some sort of sickness is THE thing that upsets me most about the popularity of the series. As if BDSM wasn’t already considered something dirty and wrong by the majority of the population…

      “BTW, you are a great writer. When are we going to see your books?”

      Aw thank you so much!
      If things go to plan, I should actually have a book out in October.

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